Behavior charts can be helpful for the toddler who doesn't recognize escalation. Some children don't notice the tension rise and don't realize their actions are increasing towards unacceptable. My son is one of those children.
When we went back-to-school shopping for a backpack for my five year old son, all he wanted was superheroes. Knowing the quality is lacking and that every other boy in the class would be choosing from the same pool, I said no. Here's how I made us both happy.